Hello Reader,
Something I've been sitting with for a while: most of us are navigating the most significant crossroads of our lives with almost no one to talk to about it. Not really.
We have colleagues who need us to be decisive. Partners who need us to be okay. Therapists who hold the clinical frame. Feeds full of people performing certainty they don't feel.
What we don't have, most of us, is someone who will be honest with us. Who will write back with something that actually meets the weight of what we're carrying. Who has been through their own dissolution and isn't afraid to say what it cost, and what it gave back.
I've been that person informally for years — in long emails, in conversations after retreats that went well past the scheduled hour, in letters that felt more true than most things I've said in public. Many of you here have experienced this with me. So I've decided to make it an actual offer as I've seen the impact a well written, thoughtful reply can make.
It's called The Correspondence.
Three months. A season of letters between you and me. You write about where you are — what's unraveling, what you're trying to understand, what you can't say to anyone else. I write back. Not with a framework. Not with homework. With genuine attention and whatever I can see from here that you may not be able to see from there.
Two or three exchanges over the season. Unhurried. Private. On the page.
This is for the person who is capable and accomplished and quietly unsettled. Who feels the gap between the life they've built and the life that actually fits. Who is asking harder questions now than they were ten years ago and wants to ask them with someone rather than alone.
This is not for transactional questions, but for those doubts that arise in the middle of the night that keep you up, or for those moments when you feel you've lost your compass, or for when what used to make sense, no longer does.
It is also for the person who is simply in the middle of something and needs a witness who isn't afraid of the middle.
Only five people this season. We begin in April.
If you feel this is for you, it probably is.
Sending you love during your difficult seasons.
